Column 18:12 21 Oct 2021

How to bite off the umbilical cord, or long read about separation

What is separation? Why do children and parents need it? At what level of separation from your parents are you? Where to start the separation?

Until separation from parents occurs, a person cannot fully begin their own life. For a child under one year of age, physical and psychological fusion with the mother gives a sense of security, a sense of full acceptance, trust, and unconditional love. During life, an insufficiently separated person wants to return to this symbiosis, trying to achieve a similar feeling when communicating with parents or partners. The desire to receive unconditional acceptance, in the absence of separation, may remain the most important thing in life.

How to understand that you are in close contact with your parents and are not sufficiently separated from them? You are unseparated if:

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